How to be Free From the Need to “Connect” with People

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Reality TV, Blogs, Magazines, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. We live in a society that is overrun with the details of other people’s lives.

While one could argue that these are all just ways to communicate, “connect” with people and stay abreast of the changes that are taking place in the world, a person can also lose themselves in the lives of others.

How can this be possible?

As Nikia Pope once said, the constant obsession with the lives of others both stifles our growths and limits our perspectives.

You find yourself constantly obsessed with what they are doing, what they are wearing, who is dating who etc., and in the midst of this obsession, you forget about the most important person, you.

What about your life?

You are unique, you don’t need likes, re-tweets or compliments to validate the gold you are.

You may never realise your own greatness, if you are constantly engulfed in the lives of others.

Carefully decide what you allow in your eye gate and ear gate.

Shut out the social media noise, reality shows, and detox from other people’s lives.

Separate yourself from attachment to externals [possessions, beauty, titles, money, status, situation.]

Bring your attention to the internal, deeper, psycho-spiritual-relational process within. This will bring you peace, calm and serenity.

When we focus on externals, enough is never enough.

Be free to be yourself. This means not being defined by society’s standards. But defining yourself by your character, humility and the desire to do work that matters.

The best gift you can give yourself is to free yourself from the need to be liked, and to be popular.

Free yourself from the strongholds of people’s opinions. It will free your soul. your mind. And ultimately, it will free your life.

Once you free yourself from the need for perfect acceptance, it’s a lot easier to launch work that matters.



Roche Mamabolo
Roche Mamabolo

Entrepreneur, Author, Dad. Passionate about Innovation and Creativity, Books, Poetry, Traveling, Theatre, Art, Music.

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